Stunning revelations. Michelle Becker's approach has helped us find a deeper connection and finally stop trying to fix each other--paradoxically, by learning to be kind to ourselves. The 'Core Values' exercise yanked us out of the routine doldrums of marriage and reminded us why we are together. We are grateful.--Becky and Tim P., Fort Wayne, Indiana
This beautiful book will help couples move their relationships from a place of pain and blame to love and acceptance. Drawing on empirically supported self-compassion practices, the author provides concrete tools to help people open their hearts to themselves so they can open fully to their partners.--Kristin Neff, PhD, coauthor of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
The absorbing, step-by-step approach makes the exercises easy to dive into. I especially enjoyed the 'Touching Hands' exercise, where my partner and I experienced what it felt like to withdraw or be withdrawn from. This is definitely the book for anyone who wants to break negative relationship patterns and work toward the love you deserve.--Lynn H., Pleasanton, California
From her vast experience as a therapist and teacher, Michelle Becker has written a masterpiece for any couple, whether you are seeking greater intimacy or help with serious conflicts. Her advice is grounded in science, with lots of examples and many simple, powerful exercises. Beautiful, timely, and important.--Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Resilient
We would all like to have relationships that are constantly supportive, empathic, and fun--but, unfortunately, things don't always work out that way. Having compassion for each other allows us to resolve conflicts, face disappointments, accept compromise, and learn the arts of apology and forgiveness. For anyone interested in building relationships based on courage, wisdom, and deep friendship, this is an ideal, inspiring guide.--Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of The Compassionate Mind
Michelle Becker is the therapist any couple would be lucky to find when they hit a rough spot--she is wise, practical, and without judgment. Compassion for Coupleswill transform your relationship.--Susan M. Pollak, MTS, EdD, author of Self-Compassion for Parents
This book is designed to help couples heal and thrive. Compassion does both. Compassion is a positive emotion. It brings energy and happiness into our lives. Therefore, when we wrap ourselves and our partners in compassion, suffering is transformed into something different, even into joy. It's like alchemy, but it has to be personally experienced to be understood. Please go ahead and try, and see what happens in your own relationship.--from the Foreword by Christopher Germer, PhD, coauthor of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook-
